The belief system

This system is very powerful. Since you are born, people try to mold you based on what they think is correct and what is not.

Without realizing it, as you grow up, you mold your life, or happiness, based on these beliefs, so you end up living a life that you did not choose, but the one that was programmed for you.

Cada actitud es reforzada por castigos y recompensas, si te portas bien te premian y si no, te castigan. Gracias al miedo de ser castigados o de no recibir la recompensa poco a poco las personas empezaban a fingir algo que no son para complacer a los demás. Es por eso que los seres humanos ven normal temas como el sufrimiento, vivir con miedo y tener dramas emocionales. Cada vez que miras la sociedad en la que estas, compruebas que es un lugar complicado de vivir porque está gobernado por el miedo.

Sin embargo, no es necesario que tu sueño sea una pesadilla, porque puedes disfrutar una vida agradable. El problema es que pasamos la vida buscando belleza, justicia o felicidad. Hasta el punto en el que olvidamos que todo está dentro de ti, y son tus creencias actuales no te permiten ver lo que tienes enfrente.

Primer acuerdo: Sé impecable con tus palabras

This agreement is one of the most important and complicated. It is about managing your words correctly. Although it sounds simple, many times we tend to say things without thinking and hurt others (even if that is not our intention).

Words are so powerful! and the way you use them can free or imprison you. That is, your words or thoughts have so much power that they can change or destroy a life. Think of the person who led the world into a world war just by using his words, just with that he was able to convince hundreds and thousands of people to do horrible deeds. Hitler's words, created out of fear, were so powerful that they created chaos in the world ... Imagine that your mind is like a field where every word, idea and opinion is a seed from which a plant will grow. You should consider sowing seeds of love and not hate since that is what you will have in your life. Your words build or destroy.

Each word has the ability to enter the mind and change all beliefs for better or for worse. To be impeccable with your words is to use your energy in the right way, it is not to go against you. When you are flawless, you can take responsibility for your actions without blaming yourself.

For example, if you think that offending someone is not going against you, think twice. What results from that attack is that the other person hates you and that hate is not good for you.

An example:

A tired mother after a day's work wants to go home and enjoy some quiet time.

But when she arrives finds her daughter singing at full volume. This behavior makes the headache increase and she yells at her daughter “Now be quiet, you have a horrible voice!” At that moment the mother does not care if her daughter has an ugly or a pretty voice, the only thing she wants it's a bit of silence.

Hearing these words, the daughter decides to come to terms with herself and not sing again, because she believes in her mother's words and will upset anyone who listens her.

If you can understand and apply this first agreement you will see the amount of changes that your life will have. You can see these benefits in the way you treat

a los demás y hasta a ti mismo.

Seeing the power of the first agreement, you should focus on saying and thinking positive things, since this way you can fill your garden with experiences and emotions that give a benefit to your life.

Second agreement: Don't take anything personally 

This agreement is about the importance of not taking things so personally, what others say are just words, you are the one who controls the meaning they have in your life.

For example, if a stranger stop you on the street and tells you that you are fat, what would you think? What this person is trying to do is send you their beliefs, ideas and opinions. But at the end you are the one who decides if you take these words personally or if you let them pass without affecting you. When you do not take things personally you become immune to all the poison that people try to put into your life. That immunity is a gift of this agreement. meter a tu vida, esa inmunidad es un don de este acuerdo.

But unfortunately, many times people tend to believe that they are responsible the things that happen. The reason you end up with these types of thoughts is called self-importance.

Miguel Ruiz mentions that personal importance is the greatest expression of selfishness, since you think that everyone and everything revolves around you.

To free yourself from these thoughts you must understand that nothing that others do is related to you. Even in situations that may seem very personal where someone insults you to the face, it doesn't have to do with you either. What other people say, do or think is based on the agreements that they have established in their mind. When you know what you are and what you are worth, you do not need to look for this information elsewhere or try to be accepted. If you know this , nothing they tell can affect you. By making this second agreement a habit in your life, it is when you begin to feel freer than ever, because little by little you are breaking dozens of small agreements that make you suffer.

Remember that you are the owner of your film, you decide how you feel, what affects you and what doesn't. At this moment you are in control and you should take advantage of it.

Third agreement: Don't make assumptions

All people at some point end up making assumptions about anything in their life. The problem is that by doing so, you believe that what you assume is true and you end up creating a drama out of nowhere.

Not for nothing do they say that making an assumption is looking for a problem. If you start to review all your sadness and bad times, you will realize that they always arise from some kind of assumption. Believing that everyone thinks and acts like you, is what ends up causing you great disappointment when you realize that things are not this way, to avoid this type of situation the best thing you can do is ask and put aside all your assumptions. Since when you ask people what their intentions or instructions are, you avoid unnecessary confusion or conflict, this applies to any aspect, be it work, as a couple, family or even with yourself.

Do not worry if you need to ask more questions to be clear, do it without fear! Since the more questions you ask, the closer you will be finding the truth. This agreement focuses on the way you communicate with people, with this change your relationships will not be affected by wrong assumptions.

Cuarto acuerdo: Haz siempre tu máximo esfuerzo

Miguel Ruiz says that this agreement allows the other 3 to become a habit in your life. The fourth agreement focuses on: giving your best effort regardless of the circumstances or the outcome. Surely you've ever heard the phrase "Do your best." But do you know what those words mean?

First of all, you should know that as changing beings you may find that your maximum effort is going to be different sometimes. There will be days when you feel discouraged or even sick, so it is normal that your performance is not the same as when you feel good. Here is the advantage of this agreement, “when you give your best in each situation you eliminate the regrets or feelings of guilt” because you gave your best.

When you give your best effort, you can live a life with great intensity in all aspects, from your job or even with your family. Giving your maximum effort means acting because you love to do it, not because you expect a reward. The moment you start loving what you do, giving your best will not be an obligation but a natural reaction.

Enjoy what you do. Many people only work to have a reward every 15 days or a month (their salary), as this is their only motivation they end up with a resistance to work. They find themselves impatient, looking forward to it being time to leave or for the weekend. These people do not give their best as they only do things because they feel compelled to be able to maintain their lifestyle. By the time the weekend arrives, they try to get away from all responsibility because they are not happy with the direction their life is taking.

Meanwhile, people who move for the fun of it and see their salary as something additional, end up achieving more than they ever thought. If you enjoy what you do you will always give your best effort and you will find yourself enjoying your life. Although this agreement is not easy to maintain, it is the one that makes you feel truly free, because when it becomes a belief in your life you begin to accept yourself while learning from your mistakes, but it's important that you don't go to extremes either: If you try to give more than your best effort, you'll only end up wasting your energy unnecessarily.

If you give less than your best effort, you will end up with a feeling of guilt and resentment.

Give the best of you. 

Debes dar lo mejor de ti en cada situación. Trabaja duro porque es lo que te hace feliz no porque esperas algo a cambio.

Si haces tu máximo esfuerzo por evitar los malos hábitos como: usar mal tus palabras, tomarte las cosas personales y hacer suposiciones estarán menos presentes en tu vida.

Haz siempre tu máximo esfuerzo por mantener estos acuerdos y con el paso del tiempo verás que se vuelve más sencillo lograrlo.